I will be the first person to admit that I don’t take enough time for me, however, it’s something that I am working on. I often go through my days, sometimes skipping lunch and almost always not drinking enough water. By the end of the day I often feel exhausted. When the weekend hits, I hardly have enough energy to plan anything. If you are like most people I know then this might sound vaguely familiar.
As days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months, I wonder where time has gone and often realize how out of touch I am with myself and that the practice of self-care seems like a chore, not something that should be part of my everyday routine like brushing my teeth.
If you feel guilty about taking time for yourself I would like invite you to relax into that guilt and be gentle with yourself –taking my own advice and I speak! A lot of people think that taking time for themselves is selfish and I admit that I sometimes feel this way especially when there’s a laundry list of things that need to get done. Self-care is one of the most important ways to re-ground yourself and taking time for ‘you’ should be a top priority.
So with that, here is my top 5 ways to integrate a little self-love into your everyday!
1). If you have a morning and evening commute like I do, tune out and tune in. Pop in your earbuds and listen to some soul filling music. Listen to something that pumps you up or calms you down. It could be fun and inspirational music, or it could even be a podcast and an inspirational audio book. Whatever you love to listen to that fuels you up or fills your heart, listen to that.
2). Morning commute suggestion #2: Read a great book! If background noise is distracting, pop in your earbuds –again! You don’t even have to listen to anything! I often do this while on the noisy subway and although I can still hear people talking, the voices are muffled enough that I can concentrate on what I’m reading. Grab a book that inspires you or takes you to a foreign land. Something that feeds your desires.
3). Take a bath! One of the BEST ways to relax, unwind and re-connect. Draw a nice warm bath, light a few candles and maybe burn a little incense. Heck, a glass of wine wouldn’t hurt either! Listen to some soft music and close your eyes, or grab that book you were reading on the subway and read a few chapters.
4). Physical reminders! One of my favorite stones is Rose Quartz. I will often place a piece of Rose Quartz in my pocket and throughout the day when I put my hand in my pocket, it gently reminds me to give myself a little lovin’. It reminds me to take a moment, take a deep breath and re-connect. Whether in your pocket or sitting on top of your desk at work, every time you see or touch your reminder take a moment and re-ground myself.
5). Mala beads! I have several sets of mala beads, including a set of wrist malas that I love, and each have different stones that are used for different purposes/intentions. Depending on the mood I’m in or the mood I ‘want’ to be in –heck, I admit to waking up on the wrong side of the bed some days, who doesn’t?! I will wear my mala and throughout the day, the weight of it around my neck or around my wrist reminds me to be gentle with myself, to love myself and to be patient and compassionate with myself.
So there you have it! I hope these ideas inspire you to take a little time out of your day for self-love and care and to remind you that YOU are the priority. Sometimes that’s hard to believe that especially when there are work, or partners and children are involved (I have all three!). I have been learning over the years though, that if I cannot be fully present and loving for my-self than how can I be completely present and loving for someone else? Our partners feel it and our children feel it but most of all WE feel it.
Open your heart and welcome in a lil’ more love today!
Megan Casten is a lover of life and adventure. Creator of www.megancasten.com, she gains strength and confidence in sharing her own life experiences with others in hopes that she might touch someone’s heart who may need it. Megan’s passion is to inspire and motivate others and being able to do this full-time is, well, a dream job come true! Her adventures are far from being over and she embraces each day with arms wide open, all while doing so with compassion, love and grace.
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